August Favorites

I love the month of August! Cooler temperatures, football is back on TV, and we’re one month away from Fall, my favorite season. August is also my birthday month, and I have plenty of things from the past month that could fill 10 blog post! Instead, I will select three and feature the others in next month’s post. Check out a few of my favorites from August!

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  1. Rihanna Puma Slides in Grey

I am usually not the one to run out and buy celebrity products but I just HAD to have these slides. I was dropping hints about them to PJ leading up to my birthday and he clearly got the message. Now, in MY opinion, you aren’t supposed to wear these outside of the comfort of your home. I think of these as luxury house shoes. The only time I’ll wear these outside of my house is when I go on vacation. However, to each his/her own. If you want a pair they retail at $80 and are constantly sold out, especially the grey pair. You can buy them here.

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  1. Tarte Maracuja C-Brighter Eye Treatment

As I mentioned in my April Favorites post I suffer from dark circles under my eyes. I use color corrector but that is only helpful if I am wearing makeup. For days I want a fresh face I opt for an eye cream to help brighten my eyes and make me look more alert. I used this eye cream by tarte before, but after it ran out I tried other brands but was left disappointed. So on a recent trip to Sephora I had to pick it up. It is on the expensive side ($38) but a little goes a long way. My last one lasted me about 4 months so it is worth the splurge. You can find it at Sephora or Ulta.

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  1. NYX Baked Shadow in Lavish

I love NYX products. They are affordable and have great quality. I went to Ulta looking for a highlighter and unfortunately did not succeed. I did however find this shadow. I swatched it on my skin and instantly fell in love. The color is very pigmented which a lot of drugstore brands lack. I plan to buy more colors from this line. You can find it at Ulta for $5.99.

Did you have any favorite purchases from August? Share them below in the comments!

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What I’m Learning About Submission in My Marriage

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With marriage comes new family dynamics, personalities, and spoken and unspoken rules. You gain all new emotional baggage while also trying to create your own new family & dynamic with your spouse. When you take your vows, you made a pledge to become one with your mate.

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Genesis 2:24

It can be emotionally, physically, and spiritually draining at times. It’s almost like moving in together but instead of a house or apartment, you have to share and brain and a heart which when you think about it isn’t that big. You don’t just instantly become one when you say I do, you have to work really hard every day at it. Think about every fight you’ve had from trivial to blow out. It’s ultimately because you didn’t agree with each other and ultimately you have to come together to compromise or change your stance in an essence becoming one with your spouse.

I have a Facebook friend who has been married for 3 years and I love the way she references her marriage. She calls it her “first ministry”. When I first read this, it resonated so deeply with me. Not just because I thought it was the cutest thing ever because in truth marriage is really a ministry. Marriage is a place where you learn to not only serve and aid in the care for each other but for those around you. This includes family, friends, and the countless people you encounter through work and other avenues. When you get married, your public presence multiplies rapidly and you are to serve and care for them as well. Caleb and I unintentionally set-up our actual wedding ceremony as a place to minister about marriage to our family and friends as well as remind us about our commitment to God and each other.

Even though we combed through the bible together searching for verses to share during our ceremony that we use as the foundation for our marriage, there are sections of those verses that we fall short on daily. There is one area in particular that I have a really hard time committing to, submission.

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husband, as it is fit in the Lord. Colossians 3:18

I am a very independent person and it’s so hard for me to grasp the idea of submission to Caleb in our marriage. I know that I am not the only wife or even female who hears the word submission and instantly wants to say “First off…” then deliver the world’s greatest feminist thesis since Lemonade.

But I hold my tongue because I know ultimately that when Caleb takes the lead on an issue, he’s not trying to rule over me or be a he man woman hater. People also conveniently leave out the fact the bible also says that the husband should submit to his wife as well but right now I’m dealing with me and not husbands, including my husband. My main stumbling blocks when it comes to submission is my stubbornness and need to be right.

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Bad habits are hard to break and both of these will be extremely hard especially the later since I’m often right. Notice that I didn’t say always. I’m growing y’all. The first step in my growth has been studying the bible and watching sermons to get on the same page as Caleb on submission. While watching one particular video it hit me that my relationship with my husband and submission mirrored my relationship with God and submission. During our first year of dating, Caleb’s mom invited me to their family Passover celebration and my prayer request that day was that God would work with me on total submission to him. At the time, I never considered that he could and would ultimately use my husband to teach me this lesson.

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is saviour of the body. Ephesians 5:23

I’m sure that I will fall short a few more times before I master the art of submission but I know those moments will truly be priceless and so will the times when I get it right.

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Celebrate Harry Potter’s Birthday in Old Town Alexandria

ApothecaryHarry Potter turned 36 on July 31. Yes, I am acknowledging the birthday of a fictional character. Everyone is a nerd for something and my thing is “the boy who lived.” I am not alone in my fangirling for Harry Potter. My former roommate and close friend Amber is also a huge fan. We discovered our mutual love for Mr. Potter one night back in grad school when we watched an entire Harry Potter movie marathon together. So of course I chose Amber to attend an adult themed Harry Potter event with me.

The event took place at the Stablear-Leadbeater Apothecary Museum in Old Town Alexandria. In honor of Harry’s birthday, the museum holds an annual “Real World Science Behind Harry Potter” weekend event. It includes a tour of the museum, a specialty drink, and a chance to make your own potion for only $15. We started the night with a wine tasting at Sonoma Wine Cellar. A trip here is a priceless date on its own, a tasting of 5 wines ranges from $10-$15 and you can split a small plate for $20. There’s a patio area in the back called the “wine garden” which has a great ambiance. You should definitely check it out if you are ever in Old Town. But back to Harry Potter…

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Late Flights & Early Mornings

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“Bae, if we both become successful is this what life for us is going to be like?”

That was the million-dollar question of the night posed by my S.O. as he unpacked his overnight bag and I packed mine. Would this really be what our lives would be like? Seeing each other in passing… one coming home as the other is leaving.

It possibly could be. I mean isn’t success what we were working so hard for? We push each other to be the best at what we do and support each other’s efforts wholeheartedly so it could only be a matter of time before this becomes our lives.

Being a young, working professional trying to figure out a set career path in itself is not easy. There’s already so much pressure to build a successful career, make a lot of money, plan for your financial future, travel to expand your knowledge and experiences, stay in shape and healthy. When you add dating and relationships into the mix it fells like TOO MUCH!!!! But you can’t let that stop you from pursuing a relationship or maintaining an already existing relationship.

That is why it is so important for us to carve out time to spend together. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy. I just enjoy being in his company. So if he is sitting at the table editing pictures, I sit there too, most of the time in silence. I also surprisingly enjoy the time spent with him as his {unpaid} assistant while he’s “shooting in the gym”, his studio.

I used to think that in order to “date” my S.O. we had to be going somewhere. But ohhhhhh, how wrong was I. Don’t get me wrong, it’s nice to go out sometimes but as working professionals with time and energy constraints, going out is not always in the cards. So I revel in the moments that we get to spend on the sofa with my head on his shoulder watching Big Bang Theory. In those moments our bond is growing stronger just because we are together.

You get enough pressure from society; you don’t need to pressure yourself. Alleviate some of the pressure by turning off that internal clock that says you’re running out of time.  Even as we become more successful and the distance of our travels separates us farther, we will be okay because I couldn’t imagine my life any other way.

How do you stay connected to your significant other while balancing a hectic life? What keeps you motivated?

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10 Single Girl Behaviors That Will Drive My Boyfriend Crazy

It’s official, I am moving in with my boyfriend. We signed the lease and bought a couch so there is no turning back. I am excited, but I do have some concerns. Not about our relationship and what moving in together means, but how my current single girl behavior will affect the situation. While there is nothing alarming that he will see in our shared living space, there are some things I have not yet fully exhibited in front of him. They consist of the following:

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  1. Beyoncé dance parties

I’ve been known to do entire Beyoncé dance routines in my room. When I do I get really into it, I mean REALLY INTO IT. I don’t think he’s ready for this jelly.

  1. Hair removal

Underarm hair, my legs, and those times I’m too lazy to get a Brazilian wax requires me to do routine hair removal maintenance. Even my LSGM (Light Skin Girl Mustache) can get out of hand if I let it. I’m sure he’s aware I have a hair removal routine but he has not actually seen the process. I’d like to keep it that way.

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My Priceless Disneyland Date

D797E15E84My priceless date was the worst day ever in the very best way. It was October of 2014 and my husband (then boyfriend) Brandon and I were leaders in our youth group who were asked to go to Disneyland to facilitate the younger students there. Brandon and I had only been officially dating for a few short months and what better way to get to know someone than to go to the happiest place on earth? I was glad I was able to score a last-minute job at my college cafe to work up the money to go to go on the trip. Brandon, on the other hand, was currently in between jobs and ended up working small projects and selling his beloved mini fridge to get the money to go for us to hang out with each other. I was so excited that we could both be together and I was looking forward stress-free weekend. We traveled down with the youth group in a huge bus to California, spending the night at a church and off to Disneyland that morning. Up until now, this trip was pretty smooth until we actually got to the park. Unfortunately, there were quite a few problems that happened that day…

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Why You Should Go on a PokéDate

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Last week, Nintendo released their highly anticipated augmented reality game Pokémon Go. The world has gone Pokémon crazy ever since. Everywhere you look people are in their phones (more than usual), pacing in random patterns, searching for Pokémon. The game is so popular that it overloaded its servers due to having more users than the developers initially planned. Even a Pokémon novice like me has found myself enjoying the game, especially when I played it with  my boyfriend. Which is why I believe it would make a great date!

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June Favorites

The blog is officially 6 months old! June was a busy month filled with growth and achievement for us here at Priceless Dates. Heres hoping we continue to achieve our goals in July. In the meantime, check out what we selected for our June Favorites!

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Since I was so busy last month I haven’t had time to go shopping. So instead of sharing my favorite things from June I will share my favorite moments.

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I wore the “Boy Bye” shirt featured in our “May Favorites” post to the concert
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5 Lessons My Dad Taught Me About Love

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My mom always said how overjoyed my dad was when he found out he was having a baby girl, while my mom cowered in fear knowing she would have to do hair. He was the first person to hold me after I was born. He was even the one who named me, telling my mom “you can name the next one” as she recovered from the C-section (sorry mom).  Basically, I had no choice but to be a daddy’s girl, and I’m proud of that. Of course, I love my mother but my relationship with my father is very special. We’re both Leos so our personalities are similar.  He is the reason I love sports, he was my coach for softball, basketball, and soccer. Even today we exchange friendly trash talk when the Redskins and Giants play. Basically we are the same person.

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My Open Letter to Becky with the Good Hair

After reading this blog written by a friend that spilled all the tea on a girl showing up at her ex’s door begging to reconcile or at least get closure, I felt a pang deep in my heart for her and what she was going through.  It could have easily been Dawn E. Coleman in 2011 if I hadn’t been in an airport on my way back to school. And yes, I cried in that airport. I also couldn’t get the Beyoncé line “you betta call Becky with the good hair” out of my head because ummm yeah, there may or may not have been one in this situation especially since she’d been a presence in this relationship before. But eerily, relating to both of these incidents didn’t lead me to tears. It actually lead me to jump for joy and thank God almighty for where I am today. Happy and married to a man who loves me flaws and all.

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