Perk Up!!!

Job Perks, most Millennials get them but how many of you have even considering using them for a date or even a night out with friends!?!?! Some are more glamorous and worthwhile than others but a little can go a long way, especially when you’re on a budget. I recently read an article at Madame Noire  that talked about how more black Millennials are accepting and looking for employers that give them lifestyle perks (i.e. more freedom and means to travel) vs. a larger income. This article got me to thinking about the perks I receive at my own job.


I currently work at a Botanical Garden, coordinating adult and family programming. I get to sit in on some really great classes because of my position and I get 10% off at our in house gift shop and café, free or discounted tickets to our annual events, and invitations/awareness of other local events and programs organized by our partners. My friends receive similar perks and the fact that we work for different organizations means that our list of things to do around town becomes more varied. We definitely believe in taking advantage of our perks and sharing them with each other.

One of my best friends, Brannette, invited me to IMAG0143enjoy one of her perks which included cheering on our alma mater, The University of Alabama at Birmingham (UAB), as they competed in the Conference USA Tournament last week. Free tickets to support the UAB Blazers, especially when it’s a huge game where they want to gather as many Blazer fans as possible. Unfortunately, even though UAB was the number one seed in our conference this year, we lost to Western Kentucky, 88-77, in the quarter finals.

“All Hail Alma Mater, We Sing This Song For Thee, Raise Up The Banner For Blazer Victory … Fight, Fight, Fight … All Hail Alma Mater, We Pledge To Always Be, Ever Faithful, Ever Loyal, To Dear Old UAB”


While the game didn’t turn out the way I hoped, I truly enjoyed myself. I got to spend the afternoon watching basketball with one of my closest friends for free, support my younger cousin who plays in the band, and UAB got invited to participate in the NIT so our season isn’t over. Matter of fact, the game will be televised tonight at 9 pm C.T. I hope you’ll join me in cheering on the Blazers as they face off against BYU!!!!

What are some of your job perks? Have you taken advantage of them? What about your friends’ perks? I challenge everyone to take advantage of job perk this year. Don’t forget to tag us and #perkup #workLESS #priceLESSdates #Girlsdayout

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10 Things to Do in Washington, DC This Spring

SPRING IS HERE! Springtime is definitely the season where DC shines the most. Cherry blossoms, festivals, and warm tolerable weather before the summer heat waves hit allow DC residents to enjoy their city to the fullest. So with that being said here are 10 things to I recommend you do this spring in DC.

1. Cherry Blossoms!

I could not make a list about spring in DC without mentioning the cherry blossoms. Outside of the inauguration, the Cherry Blossom Festival is arguably the biggest event DC has. However, you do not have to brave the crowds of the Tidal Basin to see them. The National Arboretum is a great alternative option and you don’t even have to get out of your car! There is also the option to see the cherry blossoms by boat on a Potomac River cruise. Personally, I think the best way to see them is by taking a stroll through your favorite DC neighborhood. Seriously, they’re everywhere. BUT if you are dead set on going to the Tidal Basin for the Cherry Blossom Festival here is the info.

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Black Love



It’s February, the month of Love. Seeing as I’m getting married soon, I’m in a particular lovey mood. I’m also in a very reflective mood about Love. The Black Love hashtag has flooded my timeline more this month than it does when Love & Basketball is replayed on your favorite station so I decided to delve a little deeper into what exactly Black Love is. Imagine my surprise when I searched for black love on urban dictionary and found not one single definition. I’ve seen multiple tributes to #blacklove on IG, twitter, fb, and various articles but it hasn’t become mainstream enough to be included on urban dictionary. But then again, it’s not very inclusive.

In 2013, Panama Jackson wrote an article titled So What Exactly is “Black Love”? after writing an article on President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama. He ended up asking the general population to define it because as he so eloquently put it “Black Love doesn’t usually require a definition… it might be hard to define but folks know it when they see it. There’s never really been a need to place any boundaries or limits on the term. Conversely, I don’t think most of us really think about how deep the idea is in and of itself.”

I could spend hours researching and trying to define Black Love and I could never encompass this intricate, delicate, yet sturdy, complexity that makes up Black Love. Also, is Black Love only exclusive to African Americans or does it include Bi-racial and Latino couples?!?!? What about the rest of the African Diaspora?!?!? Now this is definitely not an article written to blast Black Love because I definitely reposted the BEST Dwayne and Whitley meme ever and faithfully follow Fros & Beaus on IG!!!

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While although I celebrate and never hesitate to share and like Black Love on all social media platforms and in real life, your typical #BlackLove posts are definitely not my #RelationshipGoals (This is another blog for another day). My Relationship Goals, or OUR Relationship Goals since I’m now a unit is definitely more #GodLove. When you think about it, all those things that you love about Black Love is God Love. The couples love each other unconditionally, support each other, fight & makeup because of the grace and mercy they have for each other.

That last sentence may have lost me a few readers but for those that are sticking with me, let me explain myself a little more. I want to remind you that one of my goals for this new year was to grow more as a Christian and another was to focus on my marriage and not the wedding and highlighting and studying these points definitely helped me grown in both areas.

First let’s head back to the statement “grace and mercy they have for each other”. The bible tells wives to submit to their husbands as the church submits to Jesus and for the husband to love his wife as Jesus loves the church (Ephesians 5:22-25). The ultimate example of God’s grace and mercy towards us was definitely sending his son to die on the cross for us. Now that is love. And that type of love is shown throughout the bible over and over again. I don’t know about you but I’m often reminded that love has limits via social media and it’s great to be reminded that it actually doesn’t and that someone could love me that much here on earth. That is powerful when you think about it. But the bible doesn’t stop there, it covers all aspects of loving your mate. Have you read song of Solomon lately…

As we grow as a couple, I try to keep loving my spouse at the front of my mind. I’m not going to lie to you and say it’s easy. I constantly fail at truly loving Caleb daily but I will continue to strive to love him and display #BlackLove and #GodLove as we conclude Black History Month.

Edited July 1, 2016


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Valentine’s Day Gift Guide



I am not here to tell you exactly what to get your significant other for Valentine’s Day. If I were to do that, I would essentially just tell you what I want and honestly, I don’t think they would appreciate getting a bouquet of a dozen heart shaped glazed doughnuts from Krispy Kreme and a teddy bear unless they would and if that’s the case, please inform them that they are my new best friend in the whole wide world!!!!!!!

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Why You Should Take His Ass to Red Lobster


It is the Saturday before the Super Bowl. I’m on the couch recovering from my trip to Wegmans to buy every cheese in existence for this dip I’m making for the big game. That’s when I get a
text from PJ saying “Beyoncé dropped a new video” with the accompanying link. If you know me, you know I am a bit of a Beyoncé fan. This immediately sent me into BeyStan mode and the rest of my day consisted of obsessing over the entire 4 minutes and 53 seconds of this video. The song and video were, to me, A-M-A-Z-I-N-G! As always, Bey’s provides the ladies plenty of Instagram photo caption worthy lines with this new song. However, one line stood out.

“When he fuck me good I take his ass to Red Lobster”

Ummmm….WHAT?! Yes, Beyoncé said when HOV throws down in the boudoir she treats him to endless shrimp and cheddar bay biscuits. Of course social media went crazy over this reference. There were memes, videos, and a high demand for Red Lobster’s social media team to capitalize on this blessing bestowed on them by Queen Bey. But seriously…Red Lobster? I can’t remember the last time I willingly set foot in a Red Lobster. I’m not really a seafood fan to begin with but if I am going to eat seafood, I’m not going to Red Lobster. I mean yeah the biscuits are bomb and the raspberry lemonade is great but it’s still not my favorite restaurant.

I’m not alone in thinking this. In recent years Red Lobster has seen a decline in popularity. It used to be “fancy” and a treat when I was growing up. Now if someone says that it’s their favorite restaurant, you can’t help judge them. Then Beyonce happened, and the saying is “As Beyonce goes, so goes the nation.” Valentine’s Day is a week away and people are actually considering taking their significant others to RED LOBSTER! I posed the question to PJ as a joke and he actually said he was down before realizing I wasn’t serious.

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HOWEVER if you are considering Red Lobster as a potential Valentine’s Day date they do offer a 4-Course Feast for $16.99. It is also time for Lobster Fest so I see no L’s here. Be sure to check your local Red Lobster’s menus before making a reservation.

So what do ya’ll think? Will Red Lobster see more people in their restaurants due to the Beyoncé effect? Only time will tell, but fellas, remember you have to earn those biscuits!



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DC Restaurant Week at Charlie Palmer Steak


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Jennifer, Amber, and I last summer at the W for Amber’s birthday

Between our jobs, relationships, and (for some) kids, getting together with your girls is difficult. I make an effort to have a catch up session with friends at least once a month. Usually it is a happy hour or a night out at a bar or lounge. While these options are fun, it involves larger groups of people, noisy environments, and slightly increased alcohol consumption. Since we are overdue for a reunion we decided a nice dinner would be the best option.

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Battle of the Sexes


What happens when a former college athlete and a former academic over-achiever decide to date? Besides the idea of birthing a super baby, multiple competitive dates are inevitable. I know we may not look like your typical competitive couple but ohhhh do our competitive streaks run deep. While Caleb is very much the ‘in-your-face’, ‘I’m-going-to-take-you-down’

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Why You Should Take a Tour of the White House


Most federal museums and historic sites have free admission. This includes the historic house where our country’s leader lives, The White House. Visiting the White House alone is a priceless experience, but its free admission is an added bonus and makes it an even better low-cost date
option. However, it is not an easy one to come by. You can’t just walk up to the White House and ask for a tour.

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New Year, New Blog, New Goals

Back in the summer of 2015 we decided we would start 2016 off with a joint project. That project was to explore free/low-cost date options in our respective cities and share our experiences on a blog. You can read more about how we came up with this concept here. Although this is a joint venture that we are very excited about we each have our own reasons for doing it. Here are our stories…

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