Would You Stay With Your Partner After They Cheated?

Jay Z’s highly anticipated album “4:44” dropped on Friday and it confirmed he cheated on Beyonce. Hov first comes clean about his infidelity in the song “Kill Jay Z” where he raps the following:

You almost went Eric Benét

Let the baddest girl in the world get away

I don’t even know what else to say

Nigga, never go Eric Benét!

Naturally, this caused a debate on social media about why Beyoncé would stay with someone who, we can assume, habitually cheated on her. People proposed their theories and while some had valid points we will never know the reason Beyoncé chose to stay with him. So I asked myself, would I stay with my partner if they cheated?

In the past cheating for me was an unforgivable offense. My attitude was “you think you’re going to cheat on the best thing ever to happen to you and expect me to stay?” I still feel this way but am more mature and in a relationship it would be hard to walk away from and honestly I can’t imagine either of us cheating.

But, what would I do if it happened? I thought about this heavily after Lemonade and even more now after Jay Z’s admission. If I found myself in Jay and Bey’s situation I would ask myself the following questions:

  • Are we as a couple willing to fix the damage caused?
  • Do we think it’s worth it?
  • Is cheating a result of earlier issues we never fully addressed? (Issa and Lawrence I’m looking at you)

The answer to these questions would decide whether I stay or go, but I hope and pray I never find myself having to ask them.

I’d love to hear your thoughts! How do you feel about cheating? Have you been cheated on? What would make you stay if your partner cheated? Share your thoughts and personal stories below in the comments!

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  1. Awesome post! I’ve always told myself I’ll never stay with someone who cheats. That’s for the simple reason that I’ve been cheated on and stayed in the relationship and it only got worst. I think I can deal with lot, but cheating is the ultimate betrayal and disrespect in my book.

  2. Interesting thoughts. I really think it depends on the relationship. If we were just dating then no, I’d leave. But if we were married and had a baby together then obviously that is waaay more complicated.

  3. Great post, it really got me thinking. I have stayed with someone who has cheated on me in the past. Looking back, I am unsure whether that was the best choice or not as we had a very up and down relationship and it took a long time for the trust to be built back up again. Hindsight is a wonderful thing though isn’t it?

  4. Difficult question. I always said I wouldn’t stay, but I have no idea how I would respond if it actually happened to me. Still, I think I would leave because the trust will be gone completely.

  5. Great post! It’s a lot to consider. Your question, “Is cheating a result of earlier issues we never fully addressed?” is a deciding factor in my opinion. If I can say yes, and we were willing to work through the issues and counseling, I think I would stay.

  6. I would not stay with someone who cheated on me. I know my worth. I am worth more than second place. I am worth more than that. If they don’t respect me enough to stay faithful, what else will they not respect?

  7. Cheating is one of those black and white things for me… there are no shades of gray. If my boyfriend were to cheat on me, we would be done. I’d obviously miss him and our relationship but I know myself and things between us would never be the same, The trust would be gone and staying in the relationship would be more miserable than trying to put my life back together without him by my side.

  8. Well…for me, this is a very gray area. I’ve lived through it before, and if I could have made my heart behave, I would have just walked away. Being human and all, I thought about all of the years that I had emotionally invested, not to mention two kids. In the end, I left, but sometimes I think about what could have happened if I stayed and really asserted my womanly power. I’m a force to be reckoned with now, and my husband loves it, so maybe had I realized my power earlier on in life… All I know is unless you’ve walked in those heels, you don’t really know what’d you do.
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    1. Thank you for reading and sharing your story! I agree, the answer isn’t black and white it depends on the person and their situation. It’s easy to say you’d walk away when you’re talking hypothetically but when it happens for real it isn’t as easy.

  9. I think it definitely depends on the situation. People make mistakes and depending on the circumstances, it might be worth it to try and work through the issues that led to cheating.

    Unless the person is just like a pathological, serial cheater–then fuck them forver.

  10. It would depend on sooo many variables. First the level of commitment (courting vs. married), then of course the frequency, and all the other details of the offense (who, what, where, why, lol). Also though a big game changer for me is his response AFTER the cheating. Did he come to me immediately, genuinely, remorseful and wanting to correct it? Or did he continue to deny, sneak around, and lie to my face? The cheating is one thing, but the betrayal, disrespect, and the lie is what would really bother me. Great post that brings up a lot to consider!

  11. Hmm, I’m not sure. Sometimes I think it would depend on the maturity of the relationship and the nature. Other time, just because I’ve seen what cheating can do even in marriages that were very long. Yes, the underlying issues were addressed, but the damage was done. Kids were involved…I don’t know. I personally don’t think I could.

  12. For me it could depend.If he cheated once and and how he handled it. I might try. But if he cheated and fell in love or something nope I would leave his ass on the curve and have a Angela Basset moment.

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